Recently, police arrested you for assault, maybe because of your involvement in a California bar brawl or because you became violently upset with your significant other. Either way, you know you have uncontrollable anger coiled inside you.
To lessen your chances of a future outburst and potential arrest for assault, the American Psychological Association offers tips for controlling anger. Learn healthier, safer ways of channeling your emotions.
The root cause of your anger
One of the best things you can do for yourself is to trace the root cause of your anger. Are you raging over something your significant other did? Or maybe an emotional or psychological trigger caused your outburst. Knowing where your anger comes from is the first step to managing it.
It could be genetic
One thing worth pointing out is that your hair-trigger temper could be either physiological or genetic. Additionally, a combination of cultural and social factors can contribute to extreme rage.
Learn to manage your anger
The next time you feel yourself churning with mounting rage, physically remove yourself from the situation, if possible, and take a few deep breaths, inhaling deep into your diaphragm. Reframing the thoughts that accompany your anger can also help. For instance, rather than immediately catastrophizing the situation, you can ask yourself if the matter is really as dire or serious as you perceive it to be.
Bear in mind that at the end of the day, getting angry gets you nowhere. It does not start to solve the situation or move things in a positive direction. Instead, anger is essentially a massive roadblock that involves a lengthy detour to your desired destination.
This information is only intended to educate and should not be interpreted as legal advice.